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(Thanks for your patience!)

rethinking resolutions: january

I wrote back in this post about my goals for January, and so I’d like to write a little about what I ended up getting to, what I didn’t get to, and how I think the month’s plans went.

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My focus for the month was on third story(ies), this here blog o’mine, and here’s what I did:

I migrated the blog from Blogger to WordPress 98.7% by myself. It was way harder than I thought it would be, and took quite a bit more time than I anticipated. I managed to work through every single issue but one on my own, and I’m feeling pretty jazzed about that.

I’ve set up an automatic weekly back up for files and database, and I save them in multiple locations.

I haven’t gotten into a complete rhythm to publishing posts, but I’m probably as close as I’m going to get. A sort of loose goal here would be to write about one book a week (still mostly kid lit, but occasionally my own reading), a once weekly post with links to things I’m admiring or things I think you might dig, and more regular posting on what’s on the table. There will continue to be posts on the house renovation as things happen – I’m hoping for an increase in that frequency as well – and maybe an even bigger adventure related to the house in the next year or so. There will be things we’re making, or places we’re visiting around town, and events we like to attend. I plan to also write more about other blog writers – people I like reading, and why I spend a few moments with them each week. But at the core of it all, I still see this as a personal journal – a place to write about what’s on my mind, and to write personal letters to the ones I love the most.

I love the new format here, and I’m really excited about how much easier it is for you to drop a note in this space as well. As much as I like getting your email notes, it’s more fun to talk in this space.

What I didn’t finish (or what didn’t turn out the way I thought it would, or will take a lot longer than anticipated):

Ugh, double ugh. My posts came over in duplicate, which meant I spent three or four nights with the iPad in hand deleting 2000 posts. Super duper no fun.

Also, the old Blogger posts looked different than the new template I have set up here, which means the old posts look bad. This sort of bugs me, but I’m trying to let it go. When I have a few minutes then I edit a few old posts at a time. Otherwise, out of sight, out of mind.

I have a few more things I’d like to add to the home page, plus I’m trying to get things organized on the pages linked to by the tabs at the top and the circles at the side. Again, this takes awhile – particularly those huge house reno posts, but slowly it’s happening. Each room post under House Tour takes about 20-25 minutes to edit and adjust photo sizes, so it’s not a lot of fun.

I wanted to start transferring a week at a time over to Blurb for eventual blog publishing (like I did with the first year), but I haven’t done that yet. I plan to set that up, but I’m waiting until I have all the old posts formatted correctly.

I spelled out the way that I wanted to feel at the end of January – organized, inspired, productive (and a little bit proud).

I do feel organized – I received a beautiful notebook from Anthropologie for Christmas, and it now houses pages and pages of notes on all the web hosting and domain registering and CSPanel notes and DNS codes and .php files, as well as a zillion new password and usernames and photo pixel resizing shortcuts and future blog ideas, etc. It looks pretty when closed, but it means business when open. I love the way things look around here, and I’m pretty pumped that I made it happen. I’ve got ideas for tweaking things along the way, and I’m glad to have a structure in place to make that easy to happen. I think I’ve been very productive this month – I’ve accomplished a whole lot in a relatively short amount of time without being completely chained to a computer. 

And I’m (a little bit) proud. You guys – I am such a pen and paper kind of girl. I’ve been pulled (rather reluctantly at first) into the digital world. Finding a way to enjoy the learning process has been life changing. Hooray for the humble blog (and all the crazy work that goes into it)!

Tomorrow: February’s focus.

rethinking resolutions

Last year’s resolutions were uninspiring at best. I think I’m a fan of setting (and keeping) goals, and I do find that it feels like it’s time to reevaluate things at the start of a new year. But the general list of things I’d like to accomplish during the year feels more like a list of items that I’ve generally failed at completing in the past. It’s a rather defeatist attitude to carry into a season of new beginnings.

That’s just it – at the end of last year I was feeling really defeated. Everything in our lives turned upside down. Every morning began with this realization that nothing can be taken for granted, and the pressure of that feeling before the sun has even come up can be crippling. Every evening brought about real exhaustion, and that combination of deep to the core sadness and despair doesn’t lend itself to any sort of productivity. It required a very conscious effort to move slowly and choose wisely – determining where I could focus the little energy/drive/smiles that I had. The first week of December I mentally mapped out what I could do to get through the month – making very concrete lists of things that I could let go and let be. And because I was so very tired and sad about being tired and sad, I also made a very concrete list of things that I could do that would bring some peace and some focus and (maybe) even a little joy back into my outlook. 
The act of doing that was truly transformative for me. It felt like it worked. December and the holidays were still difficult, but I felt like I navigated those waters with something of a plan, and in the end there truly were some special moments in between all those tears.
As January rolled into town I thought I’d take a look back at my short term approach to December to see if maybe I could apply the same sort of tactic to the months of this year – instituting a different way of thinking about resolution lists. This was the list of overall goals I put into place for December, and the specific things that I did to implement them.
Chose a Focus
My focus for December was on the holidays – specifically trying to get through them on a personal level that wouldn’t reduce the amount of joy / happiness / traditions that my girls were excited for and deserved.
Named Feelings
At the end of the month I wanted to look back at December and be able to describe my general feelings as quiet, reflective, thoughtful, contentI did not want to have to describe them as anxious, harried, guilty.
Made Some Lists
First I determined what I had to do during the month as well as those things that were optional. I examined mandatory items first, and made a plan to engage in or complete those things is a way that would leave me feeling the way I described. Going to work was not optional, but I could put on headphones and listen to old archives of “This American Life” – something that helped me focus and reflect on the general absurdity of life in a way that often made me smile. I could offer to be the one to pick up the toys and gifts for the family our office was sponsoring, and I could take breaks from my desk to wrap up those presents or call a friend. 
Then I took a long, hard look at the optional things, and I marked many of them off my list, letting go of any lingering guilt about it at the same time. I could feel confident that I could organize a holiday concert reception and also feel confident that it would still run smoothly if I didn’t contribute something homemade of my own.
The first was an act of adjusting (priorities, approach, perception), the second was an act of subtraction (filtering and letting go). The third component was adding something(s) back in – things that were only allowed if they would bring about those feelings of quiet, reflection, thoughtfulness and contentment. I actually took my annual tradition of making holiday cards off the list in order to remove any sense of obligation or stress or deadlines that might have been related to them. And then I purposefully added them back in, pledging to myself – and out loud to my husband – that I would only work on them if they contributed those feelings to me – and I asked him to keep me accountable for that. (He did, especially on the evening that I started assembling everything and realized that I had grossly underestimated my production, and there was no physical way for them to be completed and mailed before the holiday.)

Which brings us around to the new year, and how I plan to approach it as it relates to resolutions or goals. Using a similar framework, I’m going to focus on something different each month, and then carry through with it on several different levels. So I’m choosing a theme for each month, and under that theme I want to accomplish several things:

First, I want to accomplish something that’s been on my to-do list for awhile. This will be a little like the 52 weeks projects I did a few years ago, but I’m giving myself the entire month to tackle something on that list. Second, I want to push myself to learn something or do something that I haven’t tried before. This might be in the form of taking a class, or it might be as simple as sitting down and reading online tutorials or just trying out a new technique. Third, I want to describe the way I’d like to feel at the end of each month, and then work at my specific goals with that end feeling in mind.

In addition to those three things, I’d like to intentionally set up at least one social event for the girls each month – make a better effort to help them connect up with their friends instead of just saying I’m going to do it and then realizing we’re through the weekend already and haven’t made any plans. I think we’re really good about getting out and doing fun things as a family, but I’m not the best at organizing fun play dates outside of the more typical school and scouting and sports activities. I’m also going to be more proactive about setting up date nights with M, and with other couples. I have a slew of restaurants I’m itching to go to, and I’d like to make going out a more regular thing.

Each month will be different, and (if you haven’t figured this out already) January’s theme is this blog.

Focus: third story(ies)

To-do’s related to that theme:

1. Migrate the blog to WordPress, and continue to tweak the design and features.

2. Schedule 30 minutes a week to upload the past week’s posts to Blurb as well as two old weeks to Blurb, with the long term goal of publishing the blog in hard copy each year. I loved doing that for the first year, but it’s unrealistic for me to set aside a large chunk of time each year to do it. I can, however, tackle it in small doses – one step forward, two steps back is what I’m calling it.

3. Back up the blog – at the same time I’ll do this, once weekly.

4. Publish posts on a more regular basis. I have about seven “regular” sort of post themes around here, and I plan to implement a loose sort of calendar of publishing. I’ll outline some of those ideas later this month.

Learn something new:

1. Migrate the blog on my own. Learn new things like web hosting, and domain names, and CPanels and DNS codes, and source feeds and .php files. Encounter a road block and then research until I get through it and onto the new one.

How I want to feel at the end of January: 

Organized, inspired, productive (and a little bit proud)

I plan to post at the beginning of each month about the theme and my plans, and then I’ll check back in mid-month and at the end as well. Hopefully this will be a little more inspiring and productive than Stop biting my nails. Yawn.

I’d love to hear what you are planning on tackling this year – even if it’s about your nails.